No matter what, you will always, always be welcome here. You have my number.
And here it is over 3 months later. You know what? The same holds true. You will ALWAYS be welcome – VERY welcome in my home. You still have my number so please know, your call will be greatly welcomed if and when it should ever arrive.
No matter what, I will always, always, always love you and keep you in earnest prayer – no matter how your feelings are toward me.
You have a 2nd home here. Please never forget that.
For most people the chances are very good you’ve had a narcissist in your life. It may have been a romantic interest (or spouse), or it may have been a co-worker, boss or friend.
But the difference between those experiences and the experiences suffered by children of narcissists is all about choice.
The adult that suffers through narcissistic abuse has a choice to leave the relationship.
That choice may not have always been easy to see or even easy to do, but for the children of narcissists, there is no choice.
They are bound to the narcissistic parent physically, emotionally and mentally for many damaging years, at least until they are old enough to leave. Some grown children may not even be able to leave due to the narcisist’s control over them in the relationship.
For many of these children, the physical absence of the narcissistic parent only slightly lessens the control and manipulation that has been exerted by that parent throughout their life.
Emotionally and mentally, the now-grown child is still bound in more ways than he can begin to be aware of, even if he’s fully cognizant of the fact that he was raised with such toxic love. And worse than this, the grown child has now learned this behavior from their parent and will now begin passing along this learned behavior to their own child or children.*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-*-
More updates to this article will follow.
deconstructingjezebel.com website, thank you for this.
If you ever talk to someone involved in “Prophetic ministry” or a “Deliverance ministry” they will tell you that the most common cause of severe “demonic” problems in a person’s life is “UNFORGIVENESS”. Clinging on to bitterness or grudges is virtually the singlemost dangerous spiritual thing that a person can do. It can even cause physical sickness. And yet it is so common – even in the church!
On this note, let me say that if you are that person in this “deliverance ministry” and you yourself are walking in unforgiveness, then you are walking in a lie. You are living a lie. Any “prophetic utterance” out of your mouth is coming from the ‘father of lies’.
It has been said that the major cause of hindrances and bondages in the lives of Christians is that of unforgiveness. Every one of us will have experienced things in our lives, disagreements, criticisms, accusations (both true and false) against us. We cannot avoid these things happening. Even Jesus said that it was “impossible but that offences would come” (Luke 17:1).
Did you get that? That was Jesus who said that – so why are you getting so hung up with your hurt feelings when these offenses happen?
Offences are “stumbling blocks” which come against us ~ things said and done to us to put us down, or to try and subject us to someone else’s will, etc. So, no matter how well we handle relationships, etc., we will all face negative things being thrown at us. Some will “attack” us if for no other reason but that they are jealous of us. For the Christian we must accept that these things will happen in our lives. ·
Now ask yourself, “Have I been attacking this person because I am jealous?” If the answer is ‘yes’, you are treading on dangerous ground…
The big issue is how we deal with them! It is very important to realize that once the offence has taken place, that we cannot change that. What we can change is our response to it, and how we allow it to affect us. The sooner we can take these matters to the Lord and leave them with Him ~ and at the same time practice forgiveness toward those who have offended us ~ the sooner we will be able to get on with our lives and continue to be fruitful in His service. But if we allow those criticisms to get into our emotions and cause us to re-act negatively and to start “bad mouthing” that person who has offended (and hurt) us, then it will quickly get into our spirit and lodge there. Once that happens, then we become the loser in the situation ~ even if the accusations are wrong! It is so important that we learn to keep short accounts with God and with people; otherwise we will start on a downward slippery slope that can cause us to finish up being hurt, angry, resentful, “bitter and twisted”, carrying a wounded spirit in the process. None of us can afford to let that happen.
Carrying unforgiveness in your heart is not worth it! There is nothing good or justifiable in our carrying unforgiveness. If you have any unforgiveness in your heart and life right now, get real and get rid of it. Take it to JESUS ~ give it to Him, as He is the only One who can take it away from us. It is He that we are called to please; and our carrying unforgiveness does not please Him at all. In fact unforgiveness stops God from forgiving us of our many offences against Him (Matthew 6:14-15)! Right now, come before the Lord Jesus and give it all to Him.
Or can you afford to tread on dangerous ground? Is walking in your flesh really worth it?
Thank you for this article Rodney W. Francis.
